So, you want to find a wealthy or successful man? Well here’s two rules to take into account. I won’t hold back or sugar coat anything.
We all have things that we can improve about ourselves. And the biggest mistake that I see people make while dating is that they have high standards for others, but not high standards for themselves.
You can’t ask for a man with 6-pack abs, if you won’t even go within 1 mile of a gym. You can’t ask for a man with a ton of wonderful qualities, if you don’t even work to improve your own qualities. I guess you can technically ask for those things, but you can’t get mad when the feeling isn’t mutual.
I’m not saying that you have to be perfect to attract the man of your dreams (after all, your dream man won’t be perfect either), but you should be continuously striving to improve yourself.
I once heard someone say, “Become the person who you’re looking for, is looking for.”
If you’re not the dream woman of your dream guy, then you’re not going to attract him. Before you can attract wealthy or successful men and friends into your life, you must become the type of woman who would have these types of relationships already.
If you’re interested in attracting a successful man, then you need to work on becoming a classy woman.
Become well read. What books and magazines do wealthy people read in your town? Stay up to date on world events. Learn a second language, preferably one that isn’t popular so that you stand out.
I was learning Spanish (and still am), but have recently decided to focus my efforts on learning German. Other great languages to consider are French, Portuguese, and Mandarin (or other modern Asian languages).
Make fitness and health a priority in your life. Not just for him, but for your own benefit. You can start by working out once per week. Try doing simple workout videos from YouTube, and slowly increase from there. Not only will you look better, but you’ll feel better.
Eat healthy. The reason why dieting, in the past, hasn’t worked for me is because my mind was constantly focused on what I can’t have. So instead of forcing myself to get rid of all of the yummy things that I like, I just focused on adding more fruits and veggies to my diet. You’ll start to become so full from fruits and veggies, that you won’t have much room for the unhealthy stuff.
Drink plenty of water. If this is something that you struggle with, try setting a reminder on your phone to sip water every 10 minutes. It may be tedious, but it works.
Get hobbies that the wealthy people in your town participate in. Hangout out on the wealthier sides of town. Try out hobbies such as golfing, art, opera / theatre, or any hobby where water is involved. Find out what events they’re attending. You’ll know about all of these things if you’re reading the same magazines as they are (as mentioned above).
Dress the part. I’ll be creating a series in the near future on how to dress classy, as well as case studies on classy women in the public eye.
Until then, find examples of classy women with your body type, and try to mimic their style. While you’re hanging out on the wealthier side of town, watch how the women dress. Wealthy men want a woman who will fit seamlessly into their lifestyle.
Always leave your house nicely dressed, and well groomed. Even if you’re just going to the grocery store, you never know when you’ll meet him. Also, make it your mission to do most of your tasks on the wealthy side of town.
Whether it’s grocery shopping, seeing a movie, eating out, or working out. In a way, you’re using the law of attraction. You’re dressing the part, you’re behaving the part, and you’re taking actions as though you already have what you want.
Other quick law of attraction tips for those who want it would be to create a vision board. I prefer using Pinterest. Find wedding photos, engagement rings, and loving couples that inspire you. Sleep on one side of the bed. Make dinner for two people. The goal is to make space in your life for two people. You’re acting as though you already have it.
If you’re a bit younger, some of these things may not be practical for you to do right now. And that’s okay. Just focus on the things that you can do.
In fact, if you’re young and on a budget, this is the perfect time to begin improving your inner qualities. I spent two years building up my confidence, becoming more positive, learning a new language, losing weight, learning to make myself happy (without depending on friends or a guy), learning what my passions are, and working towards my goals. These are all things that make you more interesting when dating.
If you haven’t done some of the above, try working on those things. Then, by the time you’re ready to start dating, you will have become a high quality woman yourself.
Upgrade Your Friends
Your friends will make a world of a difference in your life. I once heard someone say, “If you have 9 broke friends, you’ll be number 10.”
You should never be the smartest person in your group of friends, nor should you be the most successful of all your friends. If that’s the case, then you need new friends. Otherwise, you’ll become comfortable, because you’ll always compare your success to your friends who aren’t doing as well, which in turn makes you feel like you don’t have to strive for better.
When you have friends who are more successful than yourself, it pushes you to do better. The conversations you have with your new friends will be different. The things they spend their time doing will be different. The advice they give will be different. The value they can offer you will be different. You won’t even feel comfortable slacking off.
Having successful friends is very beneficial when dating. After all, Meghan Markle met Prince Harry through a friend. Could your current group of friends introduce you to a man of means? The answer to this question will let you know if you need to upgrade your friends.
These new friends will invite you to events and activities that will likely include other successful people. You’ll feel compelled to improve the way that you dress, act, and speak because your friends are already on a higher level, and you’ll want to fit in.
You’ll likely find new ways to improve you income, because your friends will have conversations and ideas that actually help you. You’ll learn the mannerisms and lifestyle of successful people.
Now, I’m not saying that you’ll immediately upgrade to extremely successful friends over night, especially when you’re starting from scratch, and you’re still trying to improve yourself. However, you will be able to constantly network your way up, as well as improve yourself along the process.
The current goal should be to obtain friends who are at least one level up from you, in terms of success. These people don’t have to necessarily share the same career field as you do. They should just be doing better than you in different areas of life.
As you’re improving yourself with your new found friends, and become on their level, you’ll find yourself networking with other people that they know who are even more successful.
This isn’t about using people, and dumping them to move up the social ladder. It’s simply networking. You can continuously increase your network without abandoning your old friends (unless those friends are bringing you down, and are toxic).
And there’s nothing wrong with improving your inner circle so that you’re constantly surrounded by people who inspire you and push you to be your best self.
A lot of people meet their spouse through a friend, and unless you want to date a guy who your current group of friends can offer, you might want to start networking.
As stated in the first section, you should be constantly improving yourself to better attract these types of people into your life. You can use the advice from the first section of this post to also meet new friends.
Another piece of advice when networking and trying to upgrade your inner circle is to find ways to bring value to others. Many people are always trying to find out how to find better friends, instead of being a better friend.
Remember, the common denominator in every situation in your life is you. Upgrade yourself, improve your own qualities, and provide value to those who are more successful than you. That is how you make new friends.
I’ve blabbered a bit in this section, but the point is to get better friends. I just don’t want you to think that you can get these “upgraded friends” without putting some type of effort into yourself, and being of value to them as well.
Once you have better friends, you can have them introduce you to the single men that they know. Those men will likely be successful, quality men because as the saying goes, “Birds of feather, flock together.”
Also, have you checked out my book on Amazon? The 7 Rules of Dating Rich Men. I go into much more detail about this subject over in the book, and I think it will bring much more insight into this situation.